Commitment seems to be kryptonite for men, so is it better to play the chill girl? 

The rise of the chill girl has electrified men’s obsession with no strings attached fun. She’s elusive yet fun, wild yet doesn’t ask a lot of questions, has a tragic past but you don’t need to know it. 

While the pool of folks I mostly date are gay men, I find that they are rarely any different from cold-blooded heterosexual men; they both want what they want on their terms.