Ask Niki: How Do I Have Better Sex with My Partner Who Is a Survivor of Sexual Violence?

Learn how to be a better sexual partner to someone with trauma.

Ask Niki: How Do I Have Better Sex with My Partner Who Is a Survivor of Sexual Violence?

Q: My partner is a survivor of sexual assault.  She has always been kind of weird about sex. I want to be there for her but I don’t know how. I would love any advice that you have in how to fix this.

A: Thank you for asking this very important and very relevant question! I completely understand your desire to make things better sexually between you and your partner.  Unfortunately, the aftermath of trauma isn’t something that can be “fixed,” it is likely something that will stay with your partner, to some degree, forever. Even though you can’t heal your partner, you can definitely support them, and ideally, along the way, also help improve your sex life.

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