Hey! I’m Niki Davis, a consent and sexuality educator and Bushwick Daily’s bedroom coach. Every other Humpday, I’ll answer your sex and relationship questions.

Q: 24-year-old Bushwick lady here. I’ve recently had a slew of dates that didn’t go well, how do I best reject people who I’m not interested in?

A: Thank you for writing in, this is a very common predicament. I believe in utilitarianism, which is a philosophical doctrine asserting that when confronted with life’s difficult decisions, you should make the choice that brings the most happiness (and therefore the least pain) to the most people. I think that this is very relevant when discussing the complex issue of rejection.