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This past weekend, at an art gallery (plug!) I was doing some psychological diving into visiting individuals to help them access their feelings about an accomplishment that was important to them. I noticed that several of my subjects’ accomplishments involved incidents that were shame related. It made me think: WE’VE GOT TO STOP SHAMING OURSELVES! No one can make you feel anything unless you give them the control over your shame! That applies to me too, of course.

Lemme break it down a bit first: Shame is a painful feeling about how we appear to others (and to ourselves) and doesn’t necessarily depend on our having done anything.  You cannot have it without others being around, or at least around in your imagination. Here’s some more dets on shame. And some more info on overcoming shame.