Let’s just say, I’m a Thanksgiving cynic. I can’t help but see bullshit in some of those “Happy Thanksgiving” greetings. I may not be popular, but I can relax in my honesty. There are so many reasons why Thanksgiving can be frustrating. One big reason is loss of control over basics like where and when in regards to eating, sleeping, going places. This is the same reason why I hate group outings, which is the essence of Thanksgiving. The times that I’ve been single are the ones that have bugged me the most. When you are single, you are much more vulnerable to other people’s whims, with no one to complain to privately afterward. Of course then there is the time I was with my boyfriend when I walked into my Aunt Amanda’s house one year and upon seeing me she exclaimed, “You’ve gained weight!” right in front of him.

Sister’s Unfaithful Boyfriend

Q. I’m from Colorado, I live in Bushwick now, and I see my family in Colorado over Christmas. Last year my sister was spending a semester in Venezuela, and my mother invited her boyfriend over to our family’s house for dinner anyway. Typically my sister, her boyfriend, and I, would go out after dinner for some merriment, but last year it was just me and him. Yeah, you know what happened, lots of partying and we hooked up. I feel shitty about the whole thing. So far there have not been any consequences. My sister has been here visiting me alone since last year when she got back from her trip. She and her boyfriend are still together. I didn’t say anything about what happened, but I am also concerned if he was so quick to hook up with me, I wonder who else was he sleeping with when she was away. What should I do? I’m thinking of using a work excuse and staying home this year to avoid the whole mess.