Dear Dr. Lisa-

I am a young (married at 20) wife to my 26-year-old husband. I really love him and he’s a generally good guy. He has never hit me, but when he is angry or we’re arguing, he says THE MOST hurtful, insulting things.

I am self-employed and for the longest time he would constantly tell me “get a job,” “you have no job,” “lazy” things like that. He called me a c*nt in front of all of our friends when I dropped his pizza by accident, and during one recent and extremely heated argument, he told me that our marriage was a mistake because he “thought I would have made something of myself by now.”