Dear Margot,

I’m an entrepreneur with an art gallery in Bushwick. Dating has been challenging for me because most guys are intimidated by my success and/or they want to me show their work in my gallery. A few weeks ago I met a guy who plays violin in a string quartet-an artist but not a visual artist. But now it turns out there’s a big problem—he can’t have sex without getting high. He says he can’t relax enough to enjoy himself without it. I don’t smoke  and I feel like he’s not really in the room with me. The whole thing feels distant and disconnected. It’s ruining our sex life. Help. ~Up in smoke