So, let’s say you have all the time and resources in the world (which you do), then what? What do you do with it? Sadly, most people distract themselves, divert themselves, and squander their resources on dulling their feelings. Sound familiar? You are not alone, and it’s not your fault.

Our culture does not teach us to love ourselves. It teaches us to edit, and oppress ourselves. 

We desperately need to bring back our rituals and ceremonies. Deep self-approval is a very personal ceremony you can start with by giving it the time and attention it deserves. Your life is supposed to be a living prayer to yourself. The extent that it is not is the extent to which you are blocking and deflecting your desires. Therefore, you may attract what you want right up to you, but you will not be able to receive and let it in.

I speak from personal experience. I have spent most of my life (the first 30 years) exquisitely and perfectly attracting everything I ever wanted right up to me, right in front of my face. Opportunities, experiences, and relationships all effortlessly fell into my lap, one right after the next. The missing link is that I did not let them in. I was a voyeur to my own life. I did not yet possess the deep level of self-approval required for those experiences to “stick” and take root in my life.

If deep self-approval sounds like alien language to you, it will feel awkward at first. Start with small gestures – take small walks with yourself, wink at yourself in the mirror instead of analyzing your appearance, and give your desires a moment of fresh air and consideration before you judge them and hammer them down. Try it out, I promise that it’s a practice worthwhile.